Recently, I’ve been on a journey of self love because I realized the importance of embracing and loving me. How many of us know that no one is going to love you more than yourself? I didn’t know that. I saw how individuals could loved you to an extent because they operate on their emotions and personal conditions. Who wants love like that? Love that is based on conditions. I know I don’t! This tends to lead us to base our self value on that conditioned love. I know because I’ve done that several times in the past. I was constantly searching to find someone to love me to my worth. Every time I was sadly disappointed.
After years of experiencing this, I decided that it was time to put an end to this search and learn to love on me. When I tell you that this was hard but I didn’t rely on myself to make it through the journey. I had to relay on God. He opened my eyes to see who I was in Him. As I grew in Christ my eyes began to open and I began to see who I in Christ. There were so many scriptures that helped me and I’m going to share some of them with you and tips on how I learned to love me.
1. Daily Affirmations. Speaking life to yourself is a great way to build self confidence. Stand in the mirror either clothed or naked. Just say what you love about yourself or do the “I am” speech. For example, I am beautiful. I am smart.
2.Me Days. Take your self out on “Me Dates” I love this because it forces you to step out of your comfort zone. The idea of taking yourself out on a date is different from pampered day because you gotta dress up and do the whole nine yards as if were going on a date for real with the opposite sex. However, this not the case because you are going out with yourself. Don’t pull out your phone just enjoy being in the company of you.
3.Know Your Spiritual Identity. This is the most important part because once you truly understand who you are in Christ you will be renewed and transformed. A firm spiritual walk is the key to success on this journey because you know who you are in God so when you forgot. He will always remind you that you are His Beloved. In order for you to know who you are in Christ. You have to spend time with Him and read that word. So my suggestion is find scriptures that speak to you and memorize them so that they are engraved on your mind and heart. Even post them around so you can look at them as a daily reminders when you forget WHOSE YOU ARE! Ill share with you my favorite go to scriputures:
These scriptures helped me and still remind me of who I am on those days when I’m not loving on me. Remember your scriptures will be in anchor for you on this journey.
4. Take Out the Trash. In order to have a clean house you must remove everything or body that is toxic to your life. If it doesn’t edify, empower or encourage you then it gots to go. There no need to have this type of negativity in your life. So get to cleaning!
5.Take Care of Self. In order to feel good about you. You need to take of your temple. By being mindful of what you put in it or how you cloth it. You want to make sure you not only have a healthy mind soul but also body. Treat your body as a holy place and don’t allow unhealthy food to defile it.Work out as well. This helps build confidence. My personal motto you take care of your body then your body will take care of you. Also, keep it cute. Dress up and beat that face. Keep your you4self groomed. Go get that mani and pedi or spa masssage. You are the Designer’s original artwork so look like it. Take yourself shopping and get some clothes that make you feel and look good. I’m not saying go broke by going above your means but do what your pockets can afford.
I hope these tips were helpful for your journey to loving you. I know that they have helped me and still helping me. Leave a comment below about any other tips you have that helped you out on the Loving Thyself journey.
Until next time
Peace, Love and Fashion