Recently, I was watching a Youtuber’s snapchat and she was ranting about people talking about her so negatively about things she tweeted years back on her twitter. There was this gossip site was bringing up these past tweets and people were leaving her harsh comments. She even had to set her social media accounts to private because the comments people were saying. She is pregnant and she said that someone made an account with her daughter’s name with a derogatory term calling her a B. People will leave nasty comments on her page and telling her that they hope she has a miscarriage or that they hope she falls down a flight of stairs. I was so shock to hear the kind of stuff that people had the audacity to say to her and about her innocent unborn child which lead me to write this blog post. This post is about Haters and how to deal with them.
First off, don’t allow the words of your haters to deter you but use their words as a stepping stone to your success. I am so serious about that like use their negative and doubt as the driving force to prove them wrong. I heard this speaker once say that if you are doing something wrong if you don’t have haters. Even Jesus had haters but He didn’t allow their hating self to deter him for doing His ultimate goal.
How many of us know that there are going to be people in this life who will dislike you for no apparent reason at all or hate on your success, etc? Haters can’t breathe without negativity. It’s like it’s their job to be a hater. I don’t quite understand the reason behind being a hater. What is the objective on hating on someone? We all have the same opportunities for great success but what are you doing with your time? Don’t be envies or covet someone else’s looks, success or life because you don’t know what that individual had to do in order to get to that level. People hate for numerous of reasons such as
- You have something that they don’t.
- They need to put you down to feel good about themselves.
- They want to be the center of attention.
- They are bitter about something.
- They lose sight of contentment.
- They stop counting their blessings and start counting the blessings of others.
So how do you deal with your haters? You don’t!! It doesn’t matter what you do or say there are people who are set on disliking you for whatever misconstrued logic that they had conceived in their mind. Trust me, I know from experiences that you can do whatever you think you need to change will cause those individuals to like you but that is not the case. However, I learned things that you can do differently and I want share these tips with you.
- Pray and Release it to God
Don’t sit there and try to analyze the reasons someone’s chooses not to like you. You will drive yourself crazy trying to figure what you need to change within yourself. Instead, pray and leave it to God. Allow God to take the wheel.
- Be Kind not Petty
Don’t need to be petty with them. Be kind and courteous with them. There is no sense in being petty with them. You know the cliché motto…kill them with kindness. This true no need to get to their level with their same bitter attitude, but don’t be fake with it. Make sure your kindness is coming from a genuine place.
- Don’t Apologize
People feel like that when people are offended by them you feel that you need to apologize but that is not the case when you have haters. Because you didn’t do nothing wrong to be owing someone an apology.
- Ignore them
You can’t always pay attention to the foolishness people say about you. When haters hate, and what they say is neither constructive criticism nor positive feedback, it has no value to your life. So there is no point in getting all bent out of shape by something someone says about you. Haters say things that will do nothing but ruin your day, so ignore them!
- Be You
People will hate on you for no reason. So there is no need to change who you are just to appease those haters. Just be fabulously you.
Whether it’s face-to-face or online, haters will always find something to hate on, so don’t let it get you down or even pay it no mind! Deal with haters in a way that you’ll be proud of later by focusing your time and energy on something productive. This will give haters even more reason to hate!
Love, Peace and Fashion,